An exciting benefit of an internet dating site is knowing that you may meet your great love in one click on a dating profile. You’re about to learn the secret of making the right click and choosing your best love match on internet dating sites, or when you accidentally bump into the love of your life.
The secret is to become a conscious dater.
I learned about conscious dating skills from Atlanta-based relationship coach and syndicated columnist, Jeff Herring. I’ve listed the 4 dating skill that you can learn right now. Then I’ve explained how you can use these skills on internet dating sites as you make a real connection with your virtual date.
4 Skills Of Conscious Dating That Guide You To Your Great Love
Looking around your neighborhood or the world for people to whom you are attracted.
When you scout online, it’s often called searching or hunting for your love match.
Having conversations that tell you whether this person is worth pursuing.
In online dating sites, you can have these conversations via email, by phone or video chats. However, there is a danger you can fall in love at first write or sound or sight through these virtual conversations.
In this step, you sort through your real feelings and compatibility to determine if you should make a real date with your virtual date by meeting face-to-face.
Doing things together and having longer conversations that tell you whether this person could become your life partner. Screening is not a virtual activity, since you’re now doing things together in person. That’s true for the final step:
Doing life together to see if this is doable over the long haul. Dating sounds simple when you see it as a conscious process and use these skills on dating sites.
How To Use These Skills To Make A Real Connection With Your Virtual Date:
There is a unique benefit of being a conscious dater on internet dating sites.
You may get a few chances to make a good first impression, as you progress through 4 stages of virtual meetings:
– being attracted to photos
– feeling interested in certain dating profiles
– getting to know a virtual date in e-notes
– enjoying phone and video conversations
A virtual connection may be captivating, but it isn’t real until you meet in person and see what feelings arise.
In each of these 4 stages of virtual meetings, you can move past chit-chat to make a meaningful connection.
Casually mention issues, interests and core values that are important to you in order to find out how your virtual date feels about them.
For example, if you’re a single parent, you might tell your virtual date in an early email or video chat that you love to go to your kids school and sports events, including their hockey games on weekend nights. Then watch their reactions.
They’ll let you know if spending weekend evenings with kids at the ice rink is Not their idea of fun.
You’ll be able to tell if they like kids, respect your commitment to family, and would enjoy being part of the fun.
If single parenting is your top priority, you would know which virtual match is a good fit for you on that issue.
What if you meet your love match by chance in real life?
If you have given thought to the strengths and special qualities that you seek and offer your love match, you’ll know what questions you may want to ask at first glance. After you playfully say, “You had me at Hello.”